Oct 26, 2020
In debriefing the 2-part interview with Morgan Michele Brown on death, dying, and healing, the T-Uncut Team reminds us of things to consider when dealing with death. Understand common stages and responses to death including, depression, anger, bargaining, denial, and acceptance and tips on how to support someone else who may be grieving.
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Nikki, Jolene, and Alyssa discuss the common responses and stages that you may encounter when processing death or loss and remind us that grief is an individualized process. How you deal with the death or loss of someone or something important to you will very likely be different from
In our previous interview with Morgan, the Therapists Uncu team asked Morgan what she knows know that she wishes she would have known at the time her mother died, and Morgan responded
“That [grief] is a process.”
One common model that helps us better understand death and dying is the Kubler Ross 5 Stages of Grief. Someone who is grieving may experience these responses in no particular order.
It’s not uncommon to feel that out-of-body experience Morgan mentioned, almost feeling as though your barely functioning within a haze or cloud. Especially when experiencing all of the “Firsts”
Understand that grieving a loss either to death or loss is process and it’s important to verbalize what you need or don’t need from your support. Remember, don’t compare your grief process to anyone else. This is your process. But, do recognize if and when you need to reach out to your support or connect with local resources to help your through this individualized process.
Now, what if you are someone who wants to know how to “show condolences” or how to support someone who is grieving? Consider these tips, but also remember everyone is different.
Resources mentioned:
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Who we are:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone (usually Jolene) will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She can sometimes drift into daydreaming about the endless possibilities in life and usually the last one of the group to understand Nikki and Jolene's punchlines. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services (CWS) social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, and owner and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Jolene Daly is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Jolene is a seasoned therapist and private practice owner. She grew up in the Turlock, CA and Modesto, CA area most of her adult life and has been married to her comedian of a husband Jason for 20 years. She is a genuine, authentic person with a bold personality. You'll often catch Jolene challenging our listeners and her fellow co-hosts, as she is passionate about her personal and professional values and is vocal when it comes to speaking out for what’s right. Learn more about Jolene at dalymft.com.
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